We decided to all fly out for the funeral despite the cost, my grandpa was Parker's only grandpa also for the last 12 years and my boys all really love him.
The viewing was Thursday night and that was the hardest night for me. Before I even walked into the mortuary I was in tears, I did not want to face what I knew to be inside that building. It would make it all real.
I look forward to the day where change and tears are past, where we are together forever as a family, reunited with my dearest grandpa. I love you grandpa.
Parker was a pall bearer...
Here is his obituary:
Don Ray Bybee , beloved husband, father, grandfather and great-grandfather passed away May 2, 2015 in Salt Lake City, from cancer . He was born in Idaho Falls, Idaho on July 4, 1934 to Dale Weston Bybee and Gazette (Midge) Bybee. He received all of his primary schooling in Idaho Falls and lettered while on the boxing team during his high school years. Upon graduation from high school, he attended Brigham Young University, receiving a bachelor’s degree in Marketing and Retailing. On July 21, 1954 he married Roxie Lake, his high school sweetheart. After graduating from BYU, Don and Roxie moved to New York City where he earned his master’s degree in Retailing. Don wanted to live in the west and so he accepted a job offer with U. S. Steel in San Francisco. He then moved to Salt Lake City and joined Snarr Outdoor Advertising, working in the company that Douglas T. Snarr and Don started just out of high school. After 2 years he moved to Boise, Idaho and was employed as Chief of Health Education in the Idaho Department of Health and worked in this capacity for several years. During this time in Boise he built a gumball vending machine business on the side which covered several cities in Southern Idaho. In 1976 they moved to Salem, Oregon where Don and a partner built a Long Term Health Care company. He later branched out on his own and continued in this business for 33 years until he retired. He had many interests that he and his wife shared together. He loved the Mormon Tabernacle Choir and was a frequent guest on Sunday mornings. He enjoyed attending BYU football games and had season tickets for many years. He and Roxie also enjoyed symphonies, operas, stage plays, university lectures and symposiums. He liked working with wood and was an excellent furniture refinisher. He enjoyed collecting things such as clocks and cowboy boots. He spent some years in England in his home – the Bedford House – and learned to appreciate the beauties of England. He was a hard worker all of his life and enjoyed working. Don and Dale Tingey created the Lehi Foundation in 1977, later known as American Indian Services, which provides a continual source of educational matching scholarship funds for Native Americans, assisting them to better their life and the lives of their future generations by helping them afford a higher education. He has been an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints all of his life. He is loved dearly by his family because of his great kindness, nurturing, unselfishness, gentleness and strength, and wise counsel. He is survived by his wife, Roxie, his children, Jana Lynn Barraclough (Brent Barraclough), Mark Bybee (Tracy Bybee), Denae Bybee and Darin Bybee, and his brother, Brent Bybee. He was blessed with ten grandchildren and ten great-grandchildren. He was preceded in death by an infant granddaughter, Janey Bybee.
Services will be held Friday, May 8, 2015 at 11:00 AM at the Capitol Hill First Ward, 413 West Capitol Street. A viewing will be held from 9:30 to 10:30 AM prior to the service.
Interment will be at Larkin Sunset Gardens – 10600 South Sandy, Utah
In lieu of flowers the family has requested donations to either American Indian Services (1902 North Canyon Road Suite 100, Provo, UT 84604) or the LDS Church General Missionary Fund (Corporation of the President, 50 E. North Temple Room 1521, Salt Lake City, UT 84150.)
Here is his eulogy, delivered by my dad who did a fabulous job!
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Don displayed his negotiating skills through numerous acquisitions, many involving multi-million dollar transactions. He loved the game of business…..finding the right deal, the right price, the right partners, the right funding, and putting it all together. He trusted people in business, sometimes to his own detriment. As a result, he had to start over in business at an age when most men were playing golf, avoiding their wives and growing old. But he was motivated. Motivated to take care of his wife and his children, driven by love and concern. And he loved the game of business. And he succeeded again.
His success over the years allowed Don to contribute to a cause very close to his heart. He always had a tenderness for children, he rooted for the underdog and he felt deeply for those whom life had mistreated. He became an ardent supporter of Dale Tingey and the Lehi Foundation, later known as American Indian Services. Don recognized in the Native American people a deep sense of pride, of strength, of humility. But they lacked opportunity and education. He quietly became a significant donor to this program to help provide the opportunity and education these people so badly needed. His efforts changed the lives of innumerable individuals.
Don was not without his oddities, quirks and warts, like all of us. He was not perfect. But he was a man of determination in his work, a man of compassion for others, and a man of love for his family, especially his wife and companion and best friend, Roxie.
I’ve been asked to share an email that Don wrote to Jenni Kerper just about a year ago. Jenni handled most of Don’s personal finances for many years, a monumental task to say the least. Don & Roxie decided last year to purchase some prepaid burial plans and select their burial plots. This email was telling Jenni about the required payments.
"I just bought my last piece of real estate! No more nursing homes, health care properties. I am done...This is a beautiful piece of real estate facing the Wasatch Mountains in Salt Lake City. A little tight but it works fine for two people close together...
When this investment is used I can rest in peace! No more people calling for payment. No more unsolicited phone calls for donations! No more IRS problems...At least peace and quiet..."
I LOVE YOU GRANDPA, UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN...